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This is in follow-up to yesterday’s blog post regarding plus ones.

Your best friend is getting married, and you got the invite in the mail yesterday.  You’re excited because you have been waiting forever and will be the first to RSVP.  You open it up and it is only addressed to you.  “No plus one,” you think to yourself.  How do you really know who all is invited the the wedding? Do you get a plus one?

The last thing you want to do is call her up and ask, you’re afraid to embarrass yourself.  So how do you tell?

You see my friends, that inner envelope that your formal invitation is inside should have the name or names of those invited written or printed on them.  If only you are invited, with no plus one, your invite would say “Ms. Landlocked Bride” or “Landlocked Bride.”  If they included a plus one with your invite, it would be addressed “Ms. Landlocked Bride and Guest” or “Landlocked Bride and Guest.”  Sometimes couples do not include a plus on, and that is when things get a bit hairy.  So what do you do?  Go ahead and call up another friend invited to the wedding who may know, or call the bride or groom directly to ask.  You may feel stupid when calling, but it is better to ask ahead of time than to RSVP for two, when you only have one invite.  If you RSVP’ed for two, then the bride or groom has the awkward duty of calling you up to tell you that the invite was only for you.

So, in the end, it is sticky both ways, but I suggest clearing it up beforehand.

Have any of you had any similar experiences? How did you handle it?


  1. i’ve only sent out save the dates, and i’ve already had three of my friends ask if they’ll be invited with guest. i said yes, because i felt bad. i just really hope this doesn’t happen when the invites go out.

  2. Vanessa
    1:32 pm on January 8th, 2010

    What do you do if there is no inner envelope? Lots of people are using less formal invitations. I just ran into this a few months ago with a friend from college’s wedding – really informal invitation, only addressed on the outside envelope to me, with no inner envelope… but then there was an “indicate number of entrees” liner on the return card. Turns out I was invited to bring my boyfriend (who they know) but I only found that out after I asked…