I think about this a lot myself, as a bride. I’m not one rooted in tradition – I like to make my own waves and do things my way. To some, those things may be traditional, to others they may be untraditional, but how I look at them, is that I do them my way.
The same should go for planning your wedding. To most of us brides-to-be, when we hear the term “traditional wedding” we immediately think of poofy white dresses, long veils, sit-down dinners, and so on. And, to some of us, we cringe at the idea of throwing ourselves a “traditional wedding.” Now, before you go bashing me for not liking the traditional, know that I do not like traditional weddings for myself. What I find important in planning a wedding is that you make the wedding about you and your significant other. And, for most of you readers, I’m sure you know that I have made that a common thread in many of my posts.
I digress.
Last week I was catching up on some of my daily blog reads, when the Bowie Bride posted about a blog post she read on A Los Angeles Love. The blog owner’s fiance took to the blog to really talk about how brides (and grooms) should really stop focusing on making a wedding traditional or non-traditional and really focus on making the wedding about your personalities, your lifestyles and the little elements in your relationship that make you and your significant other who you are. It really struck a chord with me. Instead of labeling your wedding as “non-traditional,” just label it unique and personal. Make it about you. If you like poofy dresses, then that is a special element about your wedding. If you don’t like flowers, then that is what makes your wedding a reflection of you.
So, I say, stop trying to fit into a mold, or avoid fitting into a mold, and really focus on the heart of the wedding – making it yours.
